Day in and day out you are always
around people. People you may like, love, hate, despise, etc., but you still
have to get along with each type of person within your job, school, or whatever
places you around people each day. What
I want to talk about as far as transitioning from military to civilian life is
the people you are around in your off time or free time. Suffering from any kind of mental
issue/disability from the military can be mentally exhausting especially
working or whatever you do all week long within the civilian world.
Good loyal friends are few and far
between, you may only have a few true friends throughout your lifetime. It takes time to find these types of friends
unless it’s like a childhood friend you grew up with. Suffering from PTSD there are so many things
that trigger my PTSD symptoms, and I never know which one I may get really mad,
sad, anxious, or depressed. I don’t want
to trigger these symptoms, so I try to surround myself with friends and family
that I know I can trust and not place myself in uncomfortable places or
situations. I like to have someone with
me at all times (unless I’m in the tree stand hunting) that I can trust to look
out for me and can help me out if need be, in case something sets me off that wouldn't set off the normal person. I
have my small circle of family and friends that I truly trust, but expanding
that circle can be a hard and hurtful, daunting task over time.
True friends that care about you and
want to succeed in life aren't always going to see eye to eye with you and you
may fight or get really mad and say things you or them wouldn't usually say;
but they will never hurt you physically or mentally and if they do, they will
make the effort to make things better.
Sometimes they may be right and you have to make the effort to fix the
problem and let them know how you were wrong and sorry and they will except
that and be glad you admitted you were wrong; most times they will respect just
that much more for admitting you were wrong and that you want to move forward
and go on with life just like nothing happened.
That’s the people you want to surround yourself with, at least for
me. The ones that you don’t want to
surround yourself with are the ones that go out of their way to hurt you and
blame everything on you and never except the fact that may have been the one
who was wrong. One of the hurtful things
about that is that you may have loved this person and been good with them for
months or years and think that you know them, but you find out quick in all
reality that you never truly knew them and that can tear you up inside, break
your heart, or leave you feeling awkward and hopeless. Those are the ones you have to branch away
from. It may be hard at the time and
feel as if you should maybe forget about it and just go on like nothing ever
happened. But in the long run it may be
best to branch away, because you don’t want to be around someone who has the
ability to bring you down, (you will know in your heart if you should branch
away or not from this person because like I said before good friends may not
always see eye to eye, but you will know by what the person has done and how
they act if you should branch off from them).
The point I’m trying to get across
is to surround yourself with good people who care for you, want to help and see
the best for you. These people need to
be ones that you can trust to always be there for you when you need it and the
ones that can help you throughout your hardships. I’m also not trying to say never and go out
and have a good time with new friends, but just to be careful and never put
yourself in a possible situation to get yourself hurt. There are many people out there who say they
want to help you, (there are a lot of very good organizations) but you have to
take the time and effort to be cautious in doing so to make sure they are
someone or people who really do what they say they will do like the GallantFew organization
has done for me.
-Bryant
McNeill
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