Landmark Insights

Hello again Warriors. Here is this installment of insights from Landmark I wanted to share with you... Whatever reality may be, it will be shaped by the lens through which we see it. When we are born we are handed multiple lenses: genetic inheritance, gender, a specific culture and the variables of our family environment, all of which constitute our sense of reality. Looking back later, we see that we have perhaps lived less from our true nature than from the vision of reality ordained by the lenses we used.*

The good news is that our actions are not correlated to some reality ordained by those lenses, but rather to how the world "occurs" to us. With the unsettling of old realities, stepping to one side and another, we become interested in what might be, what we can imagine. "Reality" is a phenomenon that arises in language. Language is both the ultimate reality and the instrument through which reality is brought forth—there is no reality "per se," no fixed reality. There's only how we see it, how we say it is—it's interpretation all the way down.

It's language—what we say (with and about others, ourselves, and the world at large) that constitutes who we are. Getting that at the most fundamental level alters the very nature of what's possible—not merely in the way we think about ourselves, but in the actual experience and expression of who we are. Language is inseparable from who we are, and what gives us access to our true nature—to the full panoply of being human. So, my reality after thee military was I'm damaged and all my interactions emanated from that "reality" or view. After doing the Landmark Forum my "reality" or view changed from I'm damaged to I'm not damaged. The way my lifestyle and my interactions with people, my love life and everything else changed from that view was amazing. People weren't scared of me anymore. Put another way, my actions no longer were intimidating because I wasn't scared of being around other people. Now I can walk into a store, public space, class and just feel like I belong. I still check for exits, fatal funnels and the suspicious people, but now I'm okay being wherever I am because I belong like everyone else. The way I now see myself is directly related to knowing I'm NOT damaged. I got issues, but so does everyone. I'm not damaged anymore because my view changed. I could see the old way I saw myself and transform it into the way I see myself now. Healthy, whole, complete and happy. I choose these new views because this is how I want to feel. From these views I am able to have a life, a good life and be part of the community, go to church, do stuff I like, have a love life because I no longer scare women away and more. I appreciate my new life after Landmark because of the tools I got going and you will too. Learn more about GallantFew's Landmark Program. Here For YOU! Larry Zabel